Ok so its been a while famalam been so busy and got lots of blogs to publish but i needed to this cause i felt/feel so bad how i let you down and needed to start to make it up to you so i wrote you a poem. (Dont get freaked out LOL) But yh this one is for you Melesha, entitled "Your Biggest Fan"
Your Biggest Fan
Every time you spit a sweet sixteen I breakdown a little
Cos I love you so much but my heart is so brittle
See you might think that I always gas you up
Dm, mention and ask too much through
Facebook status’, notifications yet
You always raise my expectations
And every time your voice pops in my head
Its like you’re reviving my soul like its been forever dead
iPhone teams, shurr streams
Always invading my midnight dreams
Love when you tweet, they’re always extreme
You always reply, you understand what I mean
See there’s Nicki, there’s Drake
Diddy and Lil Wayne
But before all them greats I would still put your name
Whether it’s at 140 or a hip hop vibe
I’ll still rate what you do and always have time
Proud to be a follower of that I am Shurr
So when you autograph my heart sign it there, right thurr
With you in my life I feel a better man
I LOVE YOU Lady L….Signed…Your Biggest Fan
Wednesday, 4 August 2010
Sunday, 9 May 2010
Something from nothing
OK its been along time since i blogged & i apologize for that. Even typing this i don't know what I'm gonna talk about hence the title something from nothing. I suppose i will find something as i go on. I know its been a busy time for many of us and will continue to get more and more hectic but have faith, stay strong and remain calm. Time to SG and GH.
OK so I'm actually at a stage were I'm actually fed up with the females that surround me ones who fall into the category "Potentials". See potential is a dangerous entity to possess. It brings about complacency, arrogance and basically trouble.
Recently I've been wasting my time around a lot of female company that in all honesty has not been worth the trouble. The sad thing is that i cant get back my wasted time, i cant recoup the seconds, hours and minutes that i spent with someone who wasn't apart of my future and use it to continue my search for my final destination. Obviously your not gonna find the one straight away and the phrase "the one" is probably drenched in obscurity as you'll probably find your "one" after searching through one hundred.
I'm continually disappointed by females; just when you think your gonna find one that's an exception to the rule they prove to be the rule of exception. I kept thinking to myself, "when am i gonna catch a break?" "Lord when are you gonna give me my Lauren London?" lol.
I know i shouldn't go searching for anything and that my time will come. Moreover as Ive said before the current crop of fruit in my garden is not acceptable. There's no one that I'm serious about that i think "Yeah i could take her home to meet momma". In fact there's no one I'm really serious about. OK there is one, she probably knows who she is but its jus not gonna happen because it wont.
Now looking at what i just wrote if someone said that to me i would argue back and say "MAKE IT HAPPEN" or "TAKE A CHANCE". But when you've been denied a chance to prove yourself by the most frivolous of reasons you kinda lose hope.
If you know me then you'll constantly here me say "I'm lowing girls for a while concentrating on work/uni etc" but the sad reality of it is that females are my downfall and will always will be until i can learn to control my feelings. With little regret i probably over appreciate Gods delicate work in producing such a fine species down to the very last inch of every single curve. Women are to be admired and to be loved, yet the same thing must be remembered about males. We wanna be loved we wanna be admired and needed.
If you were to look through my eyes and obtain my perception you would see that my life resembles a Lionel Richie music video.
"I've been alone with you
Inside my mind
And in my dreams I've kissed your lips
A thousand times
I sometimes see you
Pass outside my door
Hello!
Is it me you're looking for?"
I just want you to notice that I'm noticing you. But your blinded and fail to see me. ( On a side not, the whole video showed an inappropriate relationship lol my man was a teacher tryna seduce a student. But the basis was there.)
I really don't know what else i can do. Every time i feel like giving up another one of you comes along and seduces my mind with the idea of hope, flirts with my thoughts with the notion of happiness.
I need to get a grip. Relationships are not the be all and end all of life. In fact you enter this world alone and you leave it alone yet in between you surround yourself with people that hopefully will make your exit and entrance worth the solo trip.
So what do you do? What do I? What do i do when i decide i like you?
Its like everything you want i can give you yet you wanna go elsewhere and then complain that you aren't happy. I could give you something. I can turn your nothing and make it into something.
I'm gonna try and sum up this whole blog with one phrase i know everyone likes to drop them like Rev Run lol.
"You can love and you can live but if you don't learn, learn to love living, then you will move like leaves with the wind. Dead forgotten unloved"
"Hello"
God Bless You Bloggers, Wherever you are.
OK so I'm actually at a stage were I'm actually fed up with the females that surround me ones who fall into the category "Potentials". See potential is a dangerous entity to possess. It brings about complacency, arrogance and basically trouble.
Recently I've been wasting my time around a lot of female company that in all honesty has not been worth the trouble. The sad thing is that i cant get back my wasted time, i cant recoup the seconds, hours and minutes that i spent with someone who wasn't apart of my future and use it to continue my search for my final destination. Obviously your not gonna find the one straight away and the phrase "the one" is probably drenched in obscurity as you'll probably find your "one" after searching through one hundred.
I'm continually disappointed by females; just when you think your gonna find one that's an exception to the rule they prove to be the rule of exception. I kept thinking to myself, "when am i gonna catch a break?" "Lord when are you gonna give me my Lauren London?" lol.
I know i shouldn't go searching for anything and that my time will come. Moreover as Ive said before the current crop of fruit in my garden is not acceptable. There's no one that I'm serious about that i think "Yeah i could take her home to meet momma". In fact there's no one I'm really serious about. OK there is one, she probably knows who she is but its jus not gonna happen because it wont.
Now looking at what i just wrote if someone said that to me i would argue back and say "MAKE IT HAPPEN" or "TAKE A CHANCE". But when you've been denied a chance to prove yourself by the most frivolous of reasons you kinda lose hope.
If you know me then you'll constantly here me say "I'm lowing girls for a while concentrating on work/uni etc" but the sad reality of it is that females are my downfall and will always will be until i can learn to control my feelings. With little regret i probably over appreciate Gods delicate work in producing such a fine species down to the very last inch of every single curve. Women are to be admired and to be loved, yet the same thing must be remembered about males. We wanna be loved we wanna be admired and needed.
If you were to look through my eyes and obtain my perception you would see that my life resembles a Lionel Richie music video.
"I've been alone with you
Inside my mind
And in my dreams I've kissed your lips
A thousand times
I sometimes see you
Pass outside my door
Hello!
Is it me you're looking for?"
I just want you to notice that I'm noticing you. But your blinded and fail to see me. ( On a side not, the whole video showed an inappropriate relationship lol my man was a teacher tryna seduce a student. But the basis was there.)
I really don't know what else i can do. Every time i feel like giving up another one of you comes along and seduces my mind with the idea of hope, flirts with my thoughts with the notion of happiness.
I need to get a grip. Relationships are not the be all and end all of life. In fact you enter this world alone and you leave it alone yet in between you surround yourself with people that hopefully will make your exit and entrance worth the solo trip.
So what do you do? What do I? What do i do when i decide i like you?
Its like everything you want i can give you yet you wanna go elsewhere and then complain that you aren't happy. I could give you something. I can turn your nothing and make it into something.
I'm gonna try and sum up this whole blog with one phrase i know everyone likes to drop them like Rev Run lol.
"You can love and you can live but if you don't learn, learn to love living, then you will move like leaves with the wind. Dead forgotten unloved"
"Hello"
God Bless You Bloggers, Wherever you are.
Friday, 16 April 2010
Mr Superficial
Ok so my next blog wasn't supposed to be so soon or on this topic. However after getting consumed in this blog business something dawned on me. As much as I love females for their appearance i often overlook "The Content of their character" as MLK Jr said. The mind is a powerful tool which links our emotions and experiences and the depth of the blogs i have read has reminded me of this.
Appearance is the basis and foundation of relationships, and by relationships i mean any encounter that you experience with another person, whether it be relationships in business, with friends or with someone your attracted to.
So 1st impressions are everything, yet both male and females in their naivety ignore the 1st impressions of the other persons mentality. How they make you feel emotionally and not sexually. How your mind reacts to their presence and not your body. We all do it, even if not consciously and that is down to our genetic make up. But we shouldn't use it as an excuse.
This was just meant to be a quick blog which i have wrote a poem for. Its entitled "Mr Superficial".
God Bless You Bloggers, Wherever you are.
Appearance is the basis and foundation of relationships, and by relationships i mean any encounter that you experience with another person, whether it be relationships in business, with friends or with someone your attracted to.
So 1st impressions are everything, yet both male and females in their naivety ignore the 1st impressions of the other persons mentality. How they make you feel emotionally and not sexually. How your mind reacts to their presence and not your body. We all do it, even if not consciously and that is down to our genetic make up. But we shouldn't use it as an excuse.
This was just meant to be a quick blog which i have wrote a poem for. Its entitled "Mr Superficial".
Mr Superficial
Please may I offer you a sincere apology
For only concerning myself with the curves containing your anatomy and physiology, as they
Continue to take hold of my inner thoughts like a monopoly.
The flaws of my species down to God and biology.
Even when blinded by your outer beauty your intellect was evident
And if only all females thought like you, set the standard, were the precedent
I would make love to your ideas, slow dance with your intelligence
I love the way you think things through strip them down to their bare element.
Let me caress your every thought and make sweet music with your emotions
Hold hands with your desires, strip your conscious down to its bare minimums and massage your deep imagination with lotion
Marry your confidence as you give birth to the notion of romance, our thoughts intertwine we connect on the spiritual, Love. The only remedy, not taken from a potion
Got me feening for the contents of your personality
As our feelings ride in ecstasy making dreams a reality
Unlocking doors in your mentality with keys of liberty
Get straight down to the thought processing actions of foreplay forgetting all formalities
And even with what I know now in the garden I would still take your fruit
Because your inside shows strength in volumes, were other girls have theirs on mute
Therefore refusing to look with my eyes but listen as I am in pursuit of
A relationship that blossoms from your mind being the root
So again, I offer you my most sincere apology
Please let me embark on an intellectual monogamy
And if I ever fall, have patience, you know what’s wrong with me…
I’m Mr Superficial.
God Bless You Bloggers, Wherever you are.
Friday, 9 April 2010
Relationships....They're Complicated!!!
I thought it was only fair that i hit you with another blog to make up for my absence and for my own piece of mind. So I'm back talking about relationships, lol, again. But this is probably one area in your life that needs to be expressed regardless of its poignancy.
Relationships are complicated, end of! From when Adam and Eve were in the garden, there were problems.
The biggest mistakes that people make when it comes to problematic relationships are overlooking the reasons why their relationship is complicated and what makes it complicated? These are a few of many questions which life throws at us, along with the usual ones. "Why do bad things happen to good people?" "Why can't I find the right one?".
"The solution to your problem isn't always the answer to your question".
I think this sums up my next point quite adequately. There are some situations in life that cannot be addressed with one simple action or one smooth remedy. Most things in life are not black and white in fact they present a rainbow of options which need to be considered. Yet when it comes down to it, your final decision is defined in grayscale. You either do something or you don't. Yet the consequences and repercussions of your choice will send ripples along the timeline of your life, with the most minute verdict resulting in a colossal sentencing for your future.
But just because you can't find the answer that YOU want, do you give up? Are you like Icarus? Do you risk taking flight, knowing that your actions could have you hurtling too close to the sun? Or are you like Cinderella? Living your life in a fairy tale waiting for it to find you the perfect solution to your size 6 problem.
There are no happy endings in life...there are happy beginnings and wonderful experiences but if they were to end could you really say that you were happy?
Okay so yeah, I've taken it at its literal sense but if you were in a relationship filled with jubilation wouldn't you do everything to remain surrounded by that intense breeze of contentment?
I must stress that there is a difference between a complicated relationship and a relationship with complications. A complicated relationship is essentially what it says on the tin... A complicated relationship. It is flawed from the start because the foundation on which it was built is unstable and faltering. However a relationship with complications is a situation which most couples find themselves in and thankfully this can be addressed.
Relationships are like a rope. In the beginning your both pulling the same way fighting for a common cause, pulling along your future which is tied at the end of it. But along the way you will have tests and altercations which results in you having your very own tug of war with your own future now being central and hanging in the balance. The question arises from this situation; is your rope strong enough to withstand the pressures that you, your partner and maybe even the outside world put on it? In fact without complications you can never quite gauge the depth, strength and security of your relationship. If you can be in the most intense tug of war ever, and your rope still remains intact then your on to a winner.
In Ushers new album he says something quite profound which i wanna requote. He says, "There are three sides to every story. There's one side, then there's the other. Then there's the truth".
Communication and truth is paramount to a good relationship. The absence of truth leads to presence of poison and in a relationship poison is both cancerous and terminal. It destroys, it devastates, it corrupts and rallies together with hurt and pain in a grueling battle with your heart. Yet in order to make a masterpiece you have to step out of the painting. In other words, you need to take yourself out of the problem and look at the true root which is causing it. You need to look at the truth, not your opinion, not what you think is the problem, but what you know is the problem and have pushed to the back of your mind while you continually deceive yourself that it will go away if you avoid confronting it.
But problems don't go away by themselves, they resurface in different forms sometimes more testing, more virulent and more hideous than before. So what do you do? You address your situation. You make a decision. You hope the end result is best, for the BOTH of you.
Decisions have consequences, consequences have reactions and reactions have results.
Although this post probably makes relationships sound daunting and hardwork (which they are) the benefits of sticking at it are worth every second of anguish that you feel pain. And even though you may feel hurt not just in the moment of your problem but afterwards, if you work together and remember that your a team, the only real problem you'll have, is trying to come down from the clouds.
God Bless you Bloggers, Wherever you are.
Relationships are complicated, end of! From when Adam and Eve were in the garden, there were problems.
The biggest mistakes that people make when it comes to problematic relationships are overlooking the reasons why their relationship is complicated and what makes it complicated? These are a few of many questions which life throws at us, along with the usual ones. "Why do bad things happen to good people?" "Why can't I find the right one?".
"The solution to your problem isn't always the answer to your question".
I think this sums up my next point quite adequately. There are some situations in life that cannot be addressed with one simple action or one smooth remedy. Most things in life are not black and white in fact they present a rainbow of options which need to be considered. Yet when it comes down to it, your final decision is defined in grayscale. You either do something or you don't. Yet the consequences and repercussions of your choice will send ripples along the timeline of your life, with the most minute verdict resulting in a colossal sentencing for your future.
But just because you can't find the answer that YOU want, do you give up? Are you like Icarus? Do you risk taking flight, knowing that your actions could have you hurtling too close to the sun? Or are you like Cinderella? Living your life in a fairy tale waiting for it to find you the perfect solution to your size 6 problem.
There are no happy endings in life...there are happy beginnings and wonderful experiences but if they were to end could you really say that you were happy?
Okay so yeah, I've taken it at its literal sense but if you were in a relationship filled with jubilation wouldn't you do everything to remain surrounded by that intense breeze of contentment?
I must stress that there is a difference between a complicated relationship and a relationship with complications. A complicated relationship is essentially what it says on the tin... A complicated relationship. It is flawed from the start because the foundation on which it was built is unstable and faltering. However a relationship with complications is a situation which most couples find themselves in and thankfully this can be addressed.
Relationships are like a rope. In the beginning your both pulling the same way fighting for a common cause, pulling along your future which is tied at the end of it. But along the way you will have tests and altercations which results in you having your very own tug of war with your own future now being central and hanging in the balance. The question arises from this situation; is your rope strong enough to withstand the pressures that you, your partner and maybe even the outside world put on it? In fact without complications you can never quite gauge the depth, strength and security of your relationship. If you can be in the most intense tug of war ever, and your rope still remains intact then your on to a winner.
In Ushers new album he says something quite profound which i wanna requote. He says, "There are three sides to every story. There's one side, then there's the other. Then there's the truth".
Communication and truth is paramount to a good relationship. The absence of truth leads to presence of poison and in a relationship poison is both cancerous and terminal. It destroys, it devastates, it corrupts and rallies together with hurt and pain in a grueling battle with your heart. Yet in order to make a masterpiece you have to step out of the painting. In other words, you need to take yourself out of the problem and look at the true root which is causing it. You need to look at the truth, not your opinion, not what you think is the problem, but what you know is the problem and have pushed to the back of your mind while you continually deceive yourself that it will go away if you avoid confronting it.
But problems don't go away by themselves, they resurface in different forms sometimes more testing, more virulent and more hideous than before. So what do you do? You address your situation. You make a decision. You hope the end result is best, for the BOTH of you.
Decisions have consequences, consequences have reactions and reactions have results.
Although this post probably makes relationships sound daunting and hardwork (which they are) the benefits of sticking at it are worth every second of anguish that you feel pain. And even though you may feel hurt not just in the moment of your problem but afterwards, if you work together and remember that your a team, the only real problem you'll have, is trying to come down from the clouds.
God Bless you Bloggers, Wherever you are.
Everlasting Life. Everlasting Love. Change
Ok so i guess this blog is way overdue but I have been kept both busy and inspired by the blogging activities of De'annabell, Chey, Maya, Shen and Haydn when he eventually enters the blogging community.
If i'm honest I've found them so deeply immersing and soul searching that the competitive writer in me who until now was very much a dormant inhabiter of my ever exuberant mind has surfaced in an effort for me to make my blog as good if not better lol.
And then there's that oh so familiar voice whispering in my ear once again (My Conscious) bringing me back to down to the dull acceptability of reality that essentially, blogging, is expression. Not to be judged, not to be scrutinized and examined. This channel of expression through actions and thoughts must be encouraged in order for us to aid each other in this ever changing journey we have come to know as life.
I wanted to do a blog that wasn't obsessed with females before that obsession became a compulsion lol. I'm really not aiming to be the Hitch/Fresh Prince of the blogging world (i know de'anne already thinks i am lol). Let me stop gassing and go hard.
John 3.16 "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life."
So yeah i'm quoting scriptures but in actual fact I'm not gonna hit you too hard religiously. Yet after an Easter period where many people failed to reflect and meditate on the significance of the occasion, i just wanted to push you towards a few questions.
Firstly, to put it bluntly, SOMEONE DIED FOR YOU! WOW. Think about it in the most basic and literal sense. Someone you don't even know SACRIFICED their own life for you. With all your flaws insecurities and bad habits, someone was willing to look beyond your faults and see your needs. Can you imagine doing that for someone? Your Family? Your Friends? Your Special Person?
Another thing i want you to consider is the aspect of new life. Jesus died and rose again in 3 days. Whether you believe in Religion or not we know that once you die, you don't come back in 3 days.
I said in my previous blog that the decisions you make can affect your future. As a society, we often wait for events to occur in order to drive us to make a change. For example, new years resolutions. New life. Death.
But what really motivates you to change something that as bad as it may be, you find yourself drenched in a shower of comfortableness? The answer, like most things, is hidden within the question. Only you can motivate and drive yourself to bring about change. And to change who you are, you must change the way you perceive yourself
Change your mentality, mindset and lifestyle. Change isn't saying, it's doing. It's actions, shouting and screaming boisterously with all its might over the inconsequential and irrelevant "words" that you may fool yourself with.
Anywho i will cut this short cos it was kinda long and i want you to read my next blog lol.
God Bless you Bloggers, Wherever you are.
If i'm honest I've found them so deeply immersing and soul searching that the competitive writer in me who until now was very much a dormant inhabiter of my ever exuberant mind has surfaced in an effort for me to make my blog as good if not better lol.
And then there's that oh so familiar voice whispering in my ear once again (My Conscious) bringing me back to down to the dull acceptability of reality that essentially, blogging, is expression. Not to be judged, not to be scrutinized and examined. This channel of expression through actions and thoughts must be encouraged in order for us to aid each other in this ever changing journey we have come to know as life.
I wanted to do a blog that wasn't obsessed with females before that obsession became a compulsion lol. I'm really not aiming to be the Hitch/Fresh Prince of the blogging world (i know de'anne already thinks i am lol). Let me stop gassing and go hard.
John 3.16 "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life."
So yeah i'm quoting scriptures but in actual fact I'm not gonna hit you too hard religiously. Yet after an Easter period where many people failed to reflect and meditate on the significance of the occasion, i just wanted to push you towards a few questions.
Firstly, to put it bluntly, SOMEONE DIED FOR YOU! WOW. Think about it in the most basic and literal sense. Someone you don't even know SACRIFICED their own life for you. With all your flaws insecurities and bad habits, someone was willing to look beyond your faults and see your needs. Can you imagine doing that for someone? Your Family? Your Friends? Your Special Person?
Another thing i want you to consider is the aspect of new life. Jesus died and rose again in 3 days. Whether you believe in Religion or not we know that once you die, you don't come back in 3 days.
I said in my previous blog that the decisions you make can affect your future. As a society, we often wait for events to occur in order to drive us to make a change. For example, new years resolutions. New life. Death.
But what really motivates you to change something that as bad as it may be, you find yourself drenched in a shower of comfortableness? The answer, like most things, is hidden within the question. Only you can motivate and drive yourself to bring about change. And to change who you are, you must change the way you perceive yourself
Change your mentality, mindset and lifestyle. Change isn't saying, it's doing. It's actions, shouting and screaming boisterously with all its might over the inconsequential and irrelevant "words" that you may fool yourself with.
Anywho i will cut this short cos it was kinda long and i want you to read my next blog lol.
God Bless you Bloggers, Wherever you are.
Wednesday, 24 March 2010
Relationships....Im scared!!!
Welcome everyone to my big little world. This is an outlet of expression and opinion, not facts, jus thoughts. Not gonna take up too much of your time hopefully but heres a little bit about me; Im your average 6ft5, musicmaking Godloving down to earth kinda guy. Trying to live my life as right and as good as i can, currently at uni, so following the perfect model for life...yeah right. Life is what you make it. Newho thats a whole nother blog.
Shout outs to De'annabelle Chey and Sammi (the only people who myt read this lol)
So yeah, relationships. We've come to the age now where the decisions we make will impact majorly on the rest of our lives. Over the past couple months i have frequently come into contact with females who have given up on men and think that all guys are the same.
There is some remnants of truth in that statement. The fact is, all guys are similar in that they make mistakes. My issue is that females expect their man to be perfect (albeit unconsciously) and each flawed man they come across pushes them further away from happiness. A knight in shining armor riding in on a white horse is not gonna happen, SNM! However there are decent guys around. The good looking version to Shrek lol with the right intentions who maybe has the odd tendancy to slip up but whose heart is in the right place.
Dont get me wrong im not putting the blame solely on females, the fair share of males are hopeless and really dont help the situation with their gas. However if you judge your future on your past, your future will be your past. There will not be any idiosyncrasy (diffference) between the two.
From a personal perspective females have come into my life and in the back of my mind im thinking, yeah me and this girl have a future. The way ive been brought up ive learnt that if theres no future in a relationship then the relationship has no future, essentially, there's no point.
Maybe im the type of person that jumps the gun, i often put my foot in my mouth and probably come on to strong but thats just me. A good women is hard to find. Yet although i wanna be with someone that makes me happy and vice versa, ive come to the realisation that i am worried by commitment. Its what i think i want, but when the oppurtunity arises for it, thats when i panic, thats when i wreck something good. Simple solution...don't wreck it. Its easier said then done though. And im not the only guy that goes through those "Chandler" moments
I'd like to think im quite mature for my age, im normally good at giving advice; following it...not so much. When someone is put in your life, call it God, call it fate, call it chance, essentially you have to do the same thing whatever you believe. You have to make the most of it, you really don't know what tommorow has in store for you, but can plan for today.
I think the best thing i can do is take each step as it comes. Its nice to plan things in advance but alot of times situations change and you just have to just get on with things.
As for the females that keep getting the wrong guys, maybe you need to look at the type of guys your attracting. Again im not blaming you, far from that, but sometimes common sense is needed. If your attracted to a bad boy>don't expect him not to cheat on you. Sometimes you have to alter your perspectives in order to find happiness. You'll find that this is one of the first lessons in relationships...Compromising. But i'll bet each female out there that you will have at least once of happiness even if you've just experienced pain previously. Dont blow it. Finding love is about taking risks> Lesson number two. Sometimes I've taken risks and ended up picking the pieces of my heart off the floor (yes it can happen to guys to). BUT, I've also taken risks and been the happiest I've ever been.
If you wanna wallow in self pity because things aren't working out go ahead. Yeah sometimes you get hurt real bad trust me, but you grieve, you learn and you move on!!! Relationships are scary. Love is frightening, but if you live your life in the shadow of your fears, you will miss out on the luminous of euphoria. Take a chance, take two, take three, but just make sure you take it. It will be worth it...eventually.
I was gonna follow this up with a poem, but i think Ive chatted enough rubbish for today so ill leave it out there.
God Bless you Bloggers, Wherever you are.
Shout outs to De'annabelle Chey and Sammi (the only people who myt read this lol)
So yeah, relationships. We've come to the age now where the decisions we make will impact majorly on the rest of our lives. Over the past couple months i have frequently come into contact with females who have given up on men and think that all guys are the same.
There is some remnants of truth in that statement. The fact is, all guys are similar in that they make mistakes. My issue is that females expect their man to be perfect (albeit unconsciously) and each flawed man they come across pushes them further away from happiness. A knight in shining armor riding in on a white horse is not gonna happen, SNM! However there are decent guys around. The good looking version to Shrek lol with the right intentions who maybe has the odd tendancy to slip up but whose heart is in the right place.
Dont get me wrong im not putting the blame solely on females, the fair share of males are hopeless and really dont help the situation with their gas. However if you judge your future on your past, your future will be your past. There will not be any idiosyncrasy (diffference) between the two.
From a personal perspective females have come into my life and in the back of my mind im thinking, yeah me and this girl have a future. The way ive been brought up ive learnt that if theres no future in a relationship then the relationship has no future, essentially, there's no point.
Maybe im the type of person that jumps the gun, i often put my foot in my mouth and probably come on to strong but thats just me. A good women is hard to find. Yet although i wanna be with someone that makes me happy and vice versa, ive come to the realisation that i am worried by commitment. Its what i think i want, but when the oppurtunity arises for it, thats when i panic, thats when i wreck something good. Simple solution...don't wreck it. Its easier said then done though. And im not the only guy that goes through those "Chandler" moments
I'd like to think im quite mature for my age, im normally good at giving advice; following it...not so much. When someone is put in your life, call it God, call it fate, call it chance, essentially you have to do the same thing whatever you believe. You have to make the most of it, you really don't know what tommorow has in store for you, but can plan for today.
I think the best thing i can do is take each step as it comes. Its nice to plan things in advance but alot of times situations change and you just have to just get on with things.
As for the females that keep getting the wrong guys, maybe you need to look at the type of guys your attracting. Again im not blaming you, far from that, but sometimes common sense is needed. If your attracted to a bad boy>don't expect him not to cheat on you. Sometimes you have to alter your perspectives in order to find happiness. You'll find that this is one of the first lessons in relationships...Compromising. But i'll bet each female out there that you will have at least once of happiness even if you've just experienced pain previously. Dont blow it. Finding love is about taking risks> Lesson number two. Sometimes I've taken risks and ended up picking the pieces of my heart off the floor (yes it can happen to guys to). BUT, I've also taken risks and been the happiest I've ever been.
If you wanna wallow in self pity because things aren't working out go ahead. Yeah sometimes you get hurt real bad trust me, but you grieve, you learn and you move on!!! Relationships are scary. Love is frightening, but if you live your life in the shadow of your fears, you will miss out on the luminous of euphoria. Take a chance, take two, take three, but just make sure you take it. It will be worth it...eventually.
I was gonna follow this up with a poem, but i think Ive chatted enough rubbish for today so ill leave it out there.
God Bless you Bloggers, Wherever you are.
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