Relationships....They're Complicated!!!

I thought it was only fair that i hit you with another blog to make up for my absence and for my own piece of mind. So I'm back talking about relationships, lol, again. But this is probably one area in your life that needs to be expressed regardless of its poignancy.

Relationships are complicated, end of! From when Adam and Eve were in the garden, there were problems.

The biggest mistakes that people make when it comes to problematic relationships are overlooking the reasons why their relationship is complicated and what makes it complicated? These are a few of many questions which life throws at us, along with the usual ones. "Why do bad things happen to good people?" "Why can't I find the right one?".


"The solution to your problem isn't always the answer to your question".

I think this sums up my next point quite adequately. There are some situations in life that cannot be addressed with one simple action or one smooth remedy. Most things in life are not black and white in fact they present a rainbow of options which need to be considered. Yet when it comes down to it, your final decision is defined in grayscale. You either do something or you don't. Yet the consequences and repercussions of your choice will send ripples along the timeline of your life, with the most minute verdict resulting in a colossal sentencing for your future.


But just because you can't find the answer that YOU want, do you give up? Are you like Icarus? Do you risk taking flight, knowing that your actions could have you hurtling too close to the sun? Or are you like Cinderella? Living your life in a fairy tale waiting for it to find you the perfect solution to your size 6 problem.

There are no happy endings in life...there are happy beginnings and wonderful experiences but if they were to end could you really say that you were happy?

Okay so yeah, I've taken it at its literal sense but if you were in a relationship filled with jubilation wouldn't you do everything to remain surrounded by that intense breeze of contentment?


I must stress that there is a difference between a complicated relationship and a relationship with complications. A complicated relationship is essentially what it says on the tin... A complicated relationship. It is flawed from the start because the foundation on which it was built is unstable and faltering. However a relationship with complications is a situation which most couples find themselves in and thankfully this can be addressed.

Relationships are like a rope. In the beginning your both pulling the same way fighting for a common cause, pulling along your future which is tied at the end of it. But along the way you will have tests and altercations which results in you having your very own tug of war with your own future now being central and hanging in the balance. The question arises from this situation; is your rope strong enough to withstand the pressures that you, your partner and maybe even the outside world put on it? In fact without complications you can never quite gauge the depth, strength and security of your relationship. If you can be in the most intense tug of war ever, and your rope still remains intact then your on to a winner.

In Ushers new album he says something quite profound which i wanna requote. He says, "There are three sides to every story. There's one side, then there's the other. Then there's the truth".

Communication and truth is paramount to a good relationship. The absence of truth leads to presence of poison and in a relationship poison is both cancerous and terminal. It destroys, it devastates, it corrupts and rallies together with hurt and pain in a grueling battle with your heart. Yet in order to make a masterpiece you have to step out of the painting. In other words, you need to take yourself out of the problem and look at the true root which is causing it. You need to look at the truth, not your opinion, not what you think is the problem, but what you know is the problem and have pushed to the back of your mind while you continually deceive yourself that it will go away if you avoid confronting it.

But problems don't go away by themselves, they resurface in different forms sometimes more testing, more virulent and more hideous than before. So what do you do? You address your situation. You make a decision. You hope the end result is best, for the BOTH of you.

Decisions have consequences, consequences have reactions and reactions have results.

Although this post probably makes relationships sound daunting and hardwork (which they are) the benefits of sticking at it are worth every second of anguish that you feel pain. And even though you may feel hurt not just in the moment of your problem but afterwards, if you work together and remember that your a team, the only real problem you'll have, is trying to come down from the clouds.

God Bless you Bloggers, Wherever you are.