Mr Superficial

Ok so my next blog wasn't supposed to be so soon or on this topic. However after getting consumed in this blog business something dawned on me. As much as I love females for their appearance i often overlook "The Content of their character" as MLK Jr said. The mind is a powerful tool which links our emotions and experiences and the depth of the blogs i have read has reminded me of this.

Appearance is the basis and foundation of relationships, and by relationships i mean any encounter that you experience with another person, whether it be relationships in business, with friends or with someone your attracted to.

So 1st impressions are everything, yet both male and females in their naivety ignore the 1st impressions of the other persons mentality. How they make you feel emotionally and not sexually. How your mind reacts to their presence and not your body. We all do it, even if not consciously and that is down to our genetic make up. But we shouldn't use it as an excuse.

This was just meant to be a quick blog which i have wrote a poem for. Its entitled "Mr Superficial".

Mr Superficial

Please may I offer you a sincere apology

For only concerning myself with the curves containing your anatomy and physiology, as they

Continue to take hold of my inner thoughts like a monopoly.

The flaws of my species down to God and biology.

Even when blinded by your outer beauty your intellect was evident

And if only all females thought like you, set the standard, were the precedent

I would make love to your ideas, slow dance with your intelligence

I love the way you think things through strip them down to their bare element.

Let me caress your every thought and make sweet music with your emotions

Hold hands with your desires, strip your conscious down to its bare minimums and massage your deep imagination with lotion

Marry your confidence as you give birth to the notion of romance, our thoughts intertwine we connect on the spiritual, Love. The only remedy, not taken from a potion

Got me feening for the contents of your personality

As our feelings ride in ecstasy making dreams a reality

Unlocking doors in your mentality with keys of liberty

Get straight down to the thought processing actions of foreplay forgetting all formalities

And even with what I know now in the garden I would still take your fruit

Because your inside shows strength in volumes, were other girls have theirs on mute

Therefore refusing to look with my eyes but listen as I am in pursuit of

A relationship that blossoms from your mind being the root

So again, I offer you my most sincere apology

Please let me embark on an intellectual monogamy

And if I ever fall, have patience, you know what’s wrong with me…

I’m Mr Superficial.

God Bless You Bloggers, Wherever you are.

Relationships....They're Complicated!!!

I thought it was only fair that i hit you with another blog to make up for my absence and for my own piece of mind. So I'm back talking about relationships, lol, again. But this is probably one area in your life that needs to be expressed regardless of its poignancy.

Relationships are complicated, end of! From when Adam and Eve were in the garden, there were problems.

The biggest mistakes that people make when it comes to problematic relationships are overlooking the reasons why their relationship is complicated and what makes it complicated? These are a few of many questions which life throws at us, along with the usual ones. "Why do bad things happen to good people?" "Why can't I find the right one?".


"The solution to your problem isn't always the answer to your question".

I think this sums up my next point quite adequately. There are some situations in life that cannot be addressed with one simple action or one smooth remedy. Most things in life are not black and white in fact they present a rainbow of options which need to be considered. Yet when it comes down to it, your final decision is defined in grayscale. You either do something or you don't. Yet the consequences and repercussions of your choice will send ripples along the timeline of your life, with the most minute verdict resulting in a colossal sentencing for your future.


But just because you can't find the answer that YOU want, do you give up? Are you like Icarus? Do you risk taking flight, knowing that your actions could have you hurtling too close to the sun? Or are you like Cinderella? Living your life in a fairy tale waiting for it to find you the perfect solution to your size 6 problem.

There are no happy endings in life...there are happy beginnings and wonderful experiences but if they were to end could you really say that you were happy?

Okay so yeah, I've taken it at its literal sense but if you were in a relationship filled with jubilation wouldn't you do everything to remain surrounded by that intense breeze of contentment?


I must stress that there is a difference between a complicated relationship and a relationship with complications. A complicated relationship is essentially what it says on the tin... A complicated relationship. It is flawed from the start because the foundation on which it was built is unstable and faltering. However a relationship with complications is a situation which most couples find themselves in and thankfully this can be addressed.

Relationships are like a rope. In the beginning your both pulling the same way fighting for a common cause, pulling along your future which is tied at the end of it. But along the way you will have tests and altercations which results in you having your very own tug of war with your own future now being central and hanging in the balance. The question arises from this situation; is your rope strong enough to withstand the pressures that you, your partner and maybe even the outside world put on it? In fact without complications you can never quite gauge the depth, strength and security of your relationship. If you can be in the most intense tug of war ever, and your rope still remains intact then your on to a winner.

In Ushers new album he says something quite profound which i wanna requote. He says, "There are three sides to every story. There's one side, then there's the other. Then there's the truth".

Communication and truth is paramount to a good relationship. The absence of truth leads to presence of poison and in a relationship poison is both cancerous and terminal. It destroys, it devastates, it corrupts and rallies together with hurt and pain in a grueling battle with your heart. Yet in order to make a masterpiece you have to step out of the painting. In other words, you need to take yourself out of the problem and look at the true root which is causing it. You need to look at the truth, not your opinion, not what you think is the problem, but what you know is the problem and have pushed to the back of your mind while you continually deceive yourself that it will go away if you avoid confronting it.

But problems don't go away by themselves, they resurface in different forms sometimes more testing, more virulent and more hideous than before. So what do you do? You address your situation. You make a decision. You hope the end result is best, for the BOTH of you.

Decisions have consequences, consequences have reactions and reactions have results.

Although this post probably makes relationships sound daunting and hardwork (which they are) the benefits of sticking at it are worth every second of anguish that you feel pain. And even though you may feel hurt not just in the moment of your problem but afterwards, if you work together and remember that your a team, the only real problem you'll have, is trying to come down from the clouds.

God Bless you Bloggers, Wherever you are.

Everlasting Life. Everlasting Love. Change

Ok so i guess this blog is way overdue but I have been kept both busy and inspired by the blogging activities of De'annabell, Chey, Maya, Shen and Haydn when he eventually enters the blogging community.

If i'm honest I've found them so deeply immersing and soul searching that the competitive writer in me who until now was very much a dormant inhabiter of my ever exuberant mind has surfaced in an effort for me to make my blog as good if not better lol.

And then there's that oh so familiar voice whispering in my ear once again (My Conscious) bringing me back to down to the dull acceptability of reality that essentially, blogging, is expression. Not to be judged, not to be scrutinized and examined. This channel of expression through actions and thoughts must be encouraged in order for us to aid each other in this ever changing journey we have come to know as life.

I wanted to do a blog that wasn't obsessed with females before that obsession became a compulsion lol. I'm really not aiming to be the Hitch/Fresh Prince of the blogging world (i know de'anne already thinks i am lol). Let me stop gassing and go hard.

John 3.16 "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life."
So yeah i'm quoting scriptures but in actual fact I'm not gonna hit you too hard religiously. Yet after an Easter period where many people failed to reflect and meditate on the significance of the occasion, i just wanted to push you towards a few questions.

Firstly, to put it bluntly, SOMEONE DIED FOR YOU! WOW. Think about it in the most basic and literal sense. Someone you don't even know SACRIFICED their own life for you. With all your flaws insecurities and bad habits, someone was willing to look beyond your faults and see your needs. Can you imagine doing that for someone? Your Family? Your Friends? Your Special Person?
Another thing i want you to consider is the aspect of new life. Jesus died and rose again in 3 days. Whether you believe in Religion or not we know that once you die, you don't come back in 3 days.

I said in my previous blog that the decisions you make can affect your future. As a society, we often wait for events to occur in order to drive us to make a change. For example, new years resolutions. New life. Death.

But what really motivates you to change something that as bad as it may be, you find yourself drenched in a shower of comfortableness? The answer, like most things, is hidden within the question. Only you can motivate and drive yourself to bring about change. And to change who you are, you must change the way you perceive yourself

Change your mentality, mindset and lifestyle. Change isn't saying, it's doing. It's actions, shouting and screaming boisterously with all its might over the inconsequential and irrelevant "words" that you may fool yourself with.

Anywho i will cut this short cos it was kinda long and i want you to read my next blog lol.

God Bless you Bloggers, Wherever you are.