Relationships....Im scared!!!

Welcome everyone to my big little world. This is an outlet of expression and opinion, not facts, jus thoughts. Not gonna take up too much of your time hopefully but heres a little bit about me; Im your average 6ft5, musicmaking Godloving down to earth kinda guy. Trying to live my life as right and as good as i can, currently at uni, so following the perfect model for life...yeah right. Life is what you make it. Newho thats a whole nother blog.

Shout outs to De'annabelle Chey and Sammi (the only people who myt read this lol)

So yeah, relationships. We've come to the age now where the decisions we make will impact majorly on the rest of our lives. Over the past couple months i have frequently come into contact with females who have given up on men and think that all guys are the same.

There is some remnants of truth in that statement. The fact is, all guys are similar in that they make mistakes. My issue is that females expect their man to be perfect (albeit unconsciously) and each flawed man they come across pushes them further away from happiness. A knight in shining armor riding in on a white horse is not gonna happen, SNM! However there are decent guys around. The good looking version to Shrek lol with the right intentions who maybe has the odd tendancy to slip up but whose heart is in the right place.

Dont get me wrong im not putting the blame solely on females, the fair share of males are hopeless and really dont help the situation with their gas. However if you judge your future on your past, your future will be your past. There will not be any idiosyncrasy (diffference) between the two.

From a personal perspective females have come into my life and in the back of my mind im thinking, yeah me and this girl have a future. The way ive been brought up ive learnt that if theres no future in a relationship then the relationship has no future, essentially, there's no point.

Maybe im the type of person that jumps the gun, i often put my foot in my mouth and probably come on to strong but thats just me. A good women is hard to find. Yet although i wanna be with someone that makes me happy and vice versa, ive come to the realisation that i am worried by commitment. Its what i think i want, but when the oppurtunity arises for it, thats when i panic, thats when i wreck something good. Simple solution...don't wreck it. Its easier said then done though. And im not the only guy that goes through those "Chandler" moments

I'd like to think im quite mature for my age, im normally good at giving advice; following it...not so much. When someone is put in your life, call it God, call it fate, call it chance, essentially you have to do the same thing whatever you believe. You have to make the most of it, you really don't know what tommorow has in store for you, but can plan for today.

I think the best thing i can do is take each step as it comes. Its nice to plan things in advance but alot of times situations change and you just have to just get on with things.

As for the females that keep getting the wrong guys, maybe you need to look at the type of guys your attracting. Again im not blaming you, far from that, but sometimes common sense is needed. If your attracted to a bad boy>don't expect him not to cheat on you. Sometimes you have to alter your perspectives in order to find happiness. You'll find that this is one of the first lessons in relationships...Compromising. But i'll bet each female out there that you will have at least once of happiness even if you've just experienced pain previously. Dont blow it. Finding love is about taking risks> Lesson number two. Sometimes I've taken risks and ended up picking the pieces of my heart off the floor (yes it can happen to guys to). BUT, I've also taken risks and been the happiest I've ever been.

If you wanna wallow in self pity because things aren't working out go ahead. Yeah sometimes you get hurt real bad trust me, but you grieve, you learn and you move on!!! Relationships are scary. Love is frightening, but if you live your life in the shadow of your fears, you will miss out on the luminous of euphoria. Take a chance, take two, take three, but just make sure you take it. It will be worth it...eventually.

I was gonna follow this up with a poem, but i think Ive chatted enough rubbish for today so ill leave it out there.

God Bless you Bloggers, Wherever you are.